It would be cool if having one mouth and two ears would easily increase the odds of listening well.

But most of us are painfully aware that, at best, those odds are reversed.

The late Dr. M. Scott Peck, M.D., wrote,

“Listening well is an exercise of attention and by necessity hard work.
It is because they do not realize this or  because they are not willing to do the work that
most people do not listen well”

Great listeners listen on three levels.

They hear:

1.  what the person is actually saying,

2. what the person is feeling as they are sharing, or about what they are sharing, and, even more deeply,

3. what the person really wants to say.

How’s your listening lately?

Can you be comfortable while you are not talking and the other person is?

Tough but good questions for some of us!