“Twice as many mall shoppers who had just ridden an up escalator contributed to the Salvation Army than shoppers who had just ridden the down escalator.” ( Scientific American )
So escalating is good except perhaps when it comes to
bitterness, resentment, and anger.
That kind of escalation can end up in hostility and violence.
Hostility and violence has three steps of escalation:
1. Emotional – based on perceptions. If we are not good with emotions things can escalate.
2. Verbal – if there’s hostile talking, yelling, or screaming emotions are underneath. Why do dogs bark?
3. Physical – if we are not skillful emotionally and verbally violence erupts.
Main point: Emotional Skills and Sealegs are primary. Neglecting them, as too touchy-feelie in self or others, may lead to negative and dangerous verbal and physical escalations and altercations.
Discussion questions: How do you do with overly sensitive people? How about with undersensitive ones?