Three Keys:

  1. Use the 5 Ws and the H—Who, What, When, Where, Why and How?
  2. Include yourself/and or your team/family members in the question—we, you, they, I
  3. Include an action verb—jump, ask, sing, do—

Find all Three Keys in each of the following examples:

  • Where could you go?
  • Who can we ask?
  • What do you think?
  • When can we start?
  • Why are we doing this?
  • How can we do this?

How did you do? Did you find the Three Keys in each question?

Advanced tips:

Watch your tone and body language. Tone can sound arrogant, judgemental, pushy, or suspicious. Seek to be calm and kind.

Seek to ask questions you don’t know the answers to. Wait a long time before giving your own answer. Pausing to listen is often helpful.

In his book, The Coaching Habit, Michael Bungay Stanier recommends these Seven Questions to help yourself and others come up with new and creative ideas.

The Coaching Habit ‒ 7 Questions to Ask

  • What’s on your mind?
  • And what else?
  • What’s the real challenge here for you?
  • What do you want?
  • How can I help?
  • If you’re saying yes to this, what are you saying no to?
  • What was most useful for you?

My favorite Link for a quick summary of the Seven Questions.

How can you use these ideas?

Best re-Arghs,
Cap’n John

Captain John
Argh, me hearty!